You may think you have your friends and family, your employers, your kids’ school teachers, and everyone else fooled into thinking you’re not…….but we all know. Some people may judge you, but we don’t. We love you, but hate the disease of addiction.
When we call you out on lies, refuse to be taken advantage of and manipulated, or hold you accountable, it is because we cannot allow you to pull us down a parallel path of destruction that you are on. We have to dig our heels in and stop allowing the madness of your addicted world to suck us in and consume us. We cannot continue to enable you. We choose to start our own path of recovery from our co-dependency and habit of enabling whether you ever choose to start recovering from your addiction or not.
Loving you means we have to detach ourselves from you in love so you can bottom out and get some help. It means there will be a lot of pain and heartache for us and for you. You will feel betrayed, hurt, and treated unfairly. That is textbook classic, and it’s ok.
When and if you get clean you will thank us for standing strong. We do this because we love you. We are tough on you because we love you. We are praying for you because we love you. And we will never give up on you….because we love you.